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I meant no offense. They were just the kind of flamboyant biker-club names that I thought celebrated homosexuality, buy cheap BUSPAR no rx, the kind of gay-biker-gang names that said, "In your face, homophobe. We are no longer going to ride in the closet!” The kind of biker gangs I would join if I happened to be gay or even entice my hypothetical gay biker son to join when if he was old enough.Among the swarm of angry emails, tweets, Face-pastes and blog-floggings were several responses from staffers of San Diego Gay and Lesbian News (SDGLN), including publisher Johnathan Hale, who reported my column to GLAAD (Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation), and assistant editor Morgan Hurley, who tweeted that “There is NO appropriate context for those types of words,” and wrote a column in which she criticized me for, among other things, not apologizing, BUSPAR FOR SALE. BUSPAR interactions, That’s when the bees really started buzzing.

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Ms. Hurley likened the FGGT-word to the N-word, which is a reasonable comparison. She also said that it was “never, purchase BUSPAR online no prescription, ever” OK to use these words, which means I need only one example to prove her wrong. Of course, I have many (such as Louis CK’s hilarious and obviously non-hateful bit about the FGGT-word), Lenny Bruce's various uses of the F- and N-words, but my favorite happened about a year ago, in the live-music bar where I worked, BUSPAR FOR SALE.

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Once we were all sufficiently intoxicated, one of the band-friends pulled out a camera-phone and announced that it was time to play the “Shout the Most Offensive Racist Slur You Can Think Of” game. BUSPAR online cod, Apparently, this is something they did after every show on the tour. BUSPAR FOR SALE, It was an easy-enough game. Everyone took turns shouting the most outrageous racial aspersion they could think of, followed by a round of uproarious laughter, hugs and backslapping, where can i buy cheapest BUSPAR online.

I don’t think I’d ever laughed that hard. There was something so freeing about it—especially the shouting part—as if the slurs were ostrich eggs we cracked against the wall and watched all the hate and anger—the yolk—of those words harmlessly dribble onto the floor.

When the camera pointed at me, Doses BUSPAR work, I stopped what I was doing and shouted, “Niggers don’t tip!” The two bruthas leaped up from their stools and high-fived and hugged and complimented me for such exquisitely hateful hate speech—all of which felt so good I wanted to leap over the bar and make out with them both.

3, BUSPAR FOR SALE. Should Ed Decker apologize? No, he should not. Because it would be the most bigoted thing he could do, where can i buy BUSPAR online.

After having spent the last 17 years razzing Christians, Jews, Muslims, Real brand BUSPAR online, Mormons, Scientologists, Africans, Asians, Arabs, buy BUSPAR from mexico, Latinos, Caucasians, Republicans, Buy BUSPAR without prescription, Democrats, athletes, musicians, sports fans, pot snobs, BUSPAR mg, beer snobs, snob-snobs, women, Online buying BUSPAR, men, cats, dogs, bikers, bar customers, after BUSPAR, bartenders, waitresses, MYSELF, Buy generic BUSPAR, my writing, my looks, my family, my friends, flight attendants, order BUSPAR no prescription, cartoonists,  parents, children, BUSPAR images, cheerleaders and guys named “Chaz” without a single “sorry” to share between them, wouldn’t it be patronizing to apologize now. Wouldn’t that assume gays and lesbians need coddling or special treatment. BUSPAR FOR SALE, I mean, yes, absolutely, I am “sorry” that my words have been hurtful to some, but I do not apologize, because I did nothing wrong.

That said, I don’t want any apologies, fast shipping BUSPAR, either. For those who called me a “homophobe,” “bigot, BUSPAR reviews, ” “hater,” “enemy to civil rights,” “ignorant” and “filth peddler,” warned me to  “watch my back” and spread my column around the country to stoke a response—no apologies necessary. In fact, BUSPAR photos, I’m stoked by the ferocity of your response. I’m stoked that you mobilized against what you perceived to be a hateful voice, stoked that your  days of taking shit and cowering in shadows are over, BUSPAR natural, that you’re increasingly more willing and able to shout, “In your face, homophobe!” Honestly, I’m so happy about that it makes me want to leap over the bar make out with each and every one of you.

Ed Decker

Epilogue: The letter from GLAAD

After I’d written the first draft of this column, I received a cordial, non-reactionary letter from GLAAD’s senior media strategist, Adam Bass:

At GLAAD we believe that a couple of your fictional gay biker group names used terms that were unnecessarily offensive.  The satire of the column was not lost on us, but we believe the jokes could have used different words to get the same point across.

The letter went on to ask that I not use words like “faggy,” “sodomite” and—this one took me by complete surprise—“homosexual.”
Because of the clinical history of the word ‘homosexual,’ it is aggressively used by anti-gay extremists to suggest that gay people are somehow diseased or psychologically / emotionally disordered…, BUSPAR FOR SALE. Please avoid using ‘homosexual’ except in direct quotes.

Here is my unabridged response to him:
Dear Adam, is BUSPAR addictive,

Thank you for your fair and reasonable letter. As a life-long hater of homophobia, I understand why so many in the LGBT community took offense to some of the language I used. BUSPAR forum, However, I must respectfully decline your request as I am a firm believer that what really matters in these situations is context.

A good example is the revelation (to me) that the word “homosexual” is now on the list of words I am not permitted to use. BUSPAR FOR SALE, First of all—and again, I say this with utmost respect and with no desire to offend—I do not recognize GLAAD’s authority over my vocabulary. My opinion is that there is absolutely nothing offensive about “homosexual.” It is—by its etymology—exactly what it defines, with zero innuendo, cheap BUSPAR. Homo means “same” and homosexuals are people who are sexually attracted to members of the same gender. It just couldn’t get any less offensive than that.

I mean, Online BUSPAR without a prescription, if we’re going to start indiscriminately banning words, I can think of one that is far more offensive than “homosexual,” yet is embraced by the gay community.  The word is “homophobe” and here’s why.

I think you would agree that the word “homo”, as a noun (not a prefix), is currently considered as one of the more offensive anti-gay slurs, BUSPAR FOR SALE. Well the word homophobe takes the word “homo” puts it in front of “phobe,” creating a word that means “fear and/or loathing of homos.”

Whoever coined the word “homophobia” didn’t know what they were doing because an etymological breakdown of the word shows that the word is actually made up of a prefix (homo as in “same”) and a suffix (“phobia” as in fear) without a root word, order BUSPAR online c.o.d.

Technically, homophobia means “fear of the same” which doesn’t make a lot of sense, unless, Rx free BUSPAR, you know, it is applied to someone with an irrational fear of cloning.

But that’s not what the coiners were doing. Whoever coined it was using homo as a root word – as in, “that guy is a homo” - and attached it to phobia, BUSPAR no rx, making homophobia more of a slur than homosexual. BUSPAR FOR SALE, However, it doesn’t have any anti-gay baggage so it remains acceptable – proving that context is what matters.

I also took issue with the reason GLAAD says “homosexual” is off the table, that it was “aggressively used by anti-gay extremists.”

Well, sure , any word can be aggressively used by extremists, even polite ones, or, in this case, clinical ones. That’s the point. It’s not the word; it’s the context. And the reason that “homosexual” is the next word on the chopping block is not because there is something wrong with it; rather, it’s that there is something wrong with the way some people use it.

If we ban “homosexual” and make “gay” the appropriate term, bigots will eventually start saying “gay” with contempt, and in 10 years we’re back to the same place, banning “gay” this time in favor of the next acceptable word, and the next—killing word after word without understanding that no matter how many words we kill, the bigots live forever, BUSPAR FOR SALE.

Thank you so much for your letter and the cordial tone with which it was written. I have great respect for GLAAD and its endeavors. Let me know if you need the gratis services of a spunky writer—I’d like to chip in.

Ed Decker,
San Diego CityBeat



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20 Responses to “BUSPAR FOR SALE”

  1. Annie the Photographer says:

    Beautifully written and intensely focused thoughts – I agree completely about the context of words, for the most part. Certain words that were solely created as derogatory in nature are always going to be offensive to me. Words that had other original meaning and then applied, in a negative context & in an offensive manner should have that derogatory context destroyed by simply using it till it loses its sting. Case in point, gay. Gay was never intended as a slur against homosexuals – gay meant happy! Someone, somewhere, afraid of homosexuality (or perhaps was in fact, homosexual but didn’t want to admit it) decided that it become an acceptable slur against homosexuals.

    Our society appears to be white-washing our language and our opinions, all led by those too afraid or too sensitive of the truth of life. There have been & always will be differences in culture, creed, religion, race, sexual preference and opinion. That’s what makes life so damn beautiful! To water it down because I’m afraid to offend someone is ridiculous. “You can please some of the people, some of the time, but you can’t please everyone all of the time” Anyone that tries is an idiot and a fool.

    There’s too much damn political correctness and not enough honesty.

    Just my humble opinion.

    See you Sunday!

  2. If you should ever renew your vows, I promise to be a bridesmaid at your whatever you call it.

    Just for the record, the people I dislike tend to reflect the things I dislike about myself, this makes me afraid of being the kind of guy I wish I wasn’t so I guess I’m a homophobe after all…

    it’s like Groucho Marx said, and I paraphrase, “I’d never want to be a member of an y group that would have me as a member!”


  3. Eber Lambert says:

    To quote the great Frank Zappa ” Theyre just words”

    If a couple of decades of email/internet has taught us anything its that written communication has two dimensions : definition and CONTEXT.

    This whole “N-word” “F-word” “C-word” silliness has turned us into a culture of 3rd graders.

    Stand tall, Scumbag

  4. John Rippo says:

    Jesus Ed, you’ve actually dumped on cartoonists, too? Don’t cartoonists have it bad enough without you going off on them? For shame. For shame….

  5. Lee Pederson says:


    How has the SF lesbian biker club “Dykes on Bikes” stayed out of the conversation this long? Their battle to register their club name as a US trademark is all about the importance of context.


  6. Cheri says:

    I’m just wondering how you became a lesbian. Good column though. As always, you made me think about things I thought I knew.

  7. Marr Bulls says:

    Being a roller derby athlete: a place where women are strong and feared I am starting a movement where women are now to be called non-males. For hundreds, nay – thousands of years women have been brutalized, raped, denied the right to vote, not recognized as even having a soul until the 20s or was it the 30s it has come to my attention that the mere mention “woman” is derogatory.


    This politically correct world we live in is beyond bullshit. BEYOND! We need to stop fretting over the use of words and start fretting over people’s behaviors. The behavior and attitude (or intolerance and ignorance) is the problem. Once we really work on that we’ll be able to once again joyfully say shit like “don’t be so —” and that — means fill in the blanks with gay, retarded, jew, Canadian (!) etc. It’s not the word. Its the intention. I just wish people could get it!

  8. Glen Dietrich says:

    Can I be flower girl?

  9. C-Dog says:

    I’m not sure if CA has a helmet law but I cant get the image out of my head you you wearing an oversized round helmet like the green martian guy in the Flintsones and give your “what’s up” nod to the biker!
    Great Stuff

  10. JAS says:

    People are getting so over-sensitive about homosexual word pairings, perhaps we should head ‘em off at the pass and ban all yogurt called “Fruit on the Bottom”….

  11. Jim Babwe says:

    Based upon the imaginary union between Norm Crosby and Steven Wright, my whole family gave you a standing ovulation with bodies pledged for donation to science fiction.

  12. BD says:



  13. Lawrence of Jersey City says:

    With respect to free speech, satire and linguistic contortions that demonize ordinary English expression, let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater.
    However, and a big however, is that Lenny Bruce’s message was poignantly appropriate to its time, not ours, unless it serves as a metaphor of sorts. The point is that so-called “hateful speech,” even if an arcane message of some social value lurks behind its offensive facade, is today self-defeating. We have come too far to turn back to the days of thinly-veiled stereotyping. Pick up the fifty’s “Black Like Me” again. Remember that many use the repetition of these canards and invectives as vindication of their own twisted views. While we may actually believe some stereotyping contains truth, the harm it causes, historically speaking, outweighs any literary utility. I will, however again, defend your right to speak freely, to the death.

  14. edwin says:

    You caught that one, eh BD?

  15. Limo King says:

    Great response, Ed. Thank you for being you and standing up for what is right, and I dare say logical.

  16. Cuhulain McBride says:

    I read your “Sons of Lame-Archy” column. Though it was not your best work, I agreed with your main points about the biker dudes being loud, stupid and full of unearned confidence. It also occurred to me that writing a weekly column must be a grind. Some weeks you just have to write about a momentary encounter and try to make something of it.

    As for the gay biker bits, I was not offended but it could have been funnier. I thought that “Hells Anals” was not too funny and would more likely get you stabbed by a real OB Hell’s Angel than make any of us queers irate.

    Lots of queers, myself included, eschew anal sex as either too risky, kind of gross or a bit of both. I guess I don’t like being gay being associated with a particular bodily attraction. I love a nice ass as well as the next guy, but only the well muscled outside part, not the pipe that Taco Bell chalupas, chewed up fingernails and the remnants of jello shots routinely pass through.

    It seems reductive and inaccurate to equate being queer, probably the best fate that could befall a person, with the word “anal.” What if you told me that you were taking your mother to dinner, and my response was “how’s that cunt doing?” Would you want someone dear to you to be reduced to a crude term for va-jay-jay? Probably not. In the same way, many queers do not want their identity reduced to a crude or cheap joke, including my queer brothers who enjoy the filthiest forms of gay fun.

    In the end, I don’t think your piece was funny enough to keep the politically correct whiners in check. Also, in your non-apology apology, you should have admitted to those occasional gay adventures you had when you were younger (or made some up). As a bi-curious weirdo, LOL, you would have been far more sympathetic. Also, I can’t believe you said “Niggers don’t tip!” in your non-apology. I’ll be stunned if you don’t catch a ration of shit for that. Way to double down.

    As for GLADD and the Gay & Lesbian times, fuck them. They are not “gay professionals” but “professional gays.” They are perpetually butt-hurt parasites, basically queer Al Sharptons. They don’t help their communities so much as feed off our collective anger and frustration. When the gay ghetto ends, they’ll have to get real jobs. May they all be castrated at a meth addicts private glory hole or be wrapped in cellophane, accidentally fucked to death at a Palm Springs orgy, and dumped in the desert. That shit happens.

  17. Glen Dietrich says:

    I’m pissed that Cuhulain McBride was funnier than me.

  18. Patricio Pelayo says:

    Deck, allow me to offer some additional context as to why many LGBT types (including myself) feel that the term “homosexual” basically blows. Back in the day, as any queer 40+ clearly recalls, mainstream news organizations, including the Cold Sore-era Soviet Union and Tribune newspapers used the term to “out” anyone remotely suspected to be any flavor of fucking other than missionary. From San Diego’s first openly gay candidate, Al Best, to Toni Atkins’ first race for the SD City Council, gays and lesbians were referred to in the press as “avowed” or “admitted” homosexuals–as if they had copped to some horrific crime. Oftentimes, when arrested with other avowed homosexuals at local watering holes, the full names, occupations and addresses of those arrested were printed in the paper.

    In addition, the term “homosexual” has a clinical, nails-on-a-chalkboard association to it, as if it were still considered a lobotomy-worthy aberration in the APA’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. It places the bulk of the emphasis on the “sex,” instead of the emotional bond between two consenting adults, or their penchant for collecting carnival glass, for example.

    Even when style manuals began to discourage use of “homosexual” in favor of “gay” or “LGBT,” it took much poking and prodding by GLAAD and other fledgling gay civil rights orgs (today’s “gay mafia”) to curtail this soft-core queer slandering, in addition to the once rampant use of “sexual preference” (because, hey, who wouldn’t sign up to be lumped in with the Hells Anals).

    So you see, the disdain one feels when being referred to as “homosexual” is still ingrained in many a queer psyche.
    That said, much in the way I have never liked the garish rainbow flag (seems better suited to represent a Mexican state) I also have never cottoned to “homophobe.” I prefer asshole (the pejorative term, that is), dolt, idiot, redneck or “socially conservative d-bag,” which all get the point across w/o having to make blanket assumptions about a person based on an off-color remark that often warrants further examination or context.

  19. Danielle LoPresti says:

    Although it is true that I do love me some Edwin Decker, I am not beyond disagreeing with you VEHEMENTLY – especially when you’re WRONG! ;)

    In this latest brouhaha, you stepped right into the hornet’s nest by using words that no one but another LGBT-er can use, and even then many would invite similar criticism. I know you wore you’re best armor by using your disclaimer sentence, brilliantly clarifying, with idiot-proof wording that you ‘did not go off on your gay biker tangent to make fun of gay people but to laugh with them’, etc. That sentence was good. And ridiculously clear.

    The problem is that years and years of bullying, suicide, marginalization and murder have involved such language, insomuch as these words are symbols of the very hate and ignorance that cause the violence.

    However, all the more reason LGBT-ers, like so many other minority groups, have done so much to take the power out of them by using these epithets themselves and often in a context of humor. But if you’re not one of the marginalized group, you’re treading on ‘dangerous’ ground.

    Or are you? Could you be instead sparking a conversation that could be revolutionary if folks decided to trade in their righteous anger for something MUCH more bold and dare I say useful – a CONVERSATION.

    Why *is* it OK for a gay person to use fag but absolutely NOT if a straight person does? Why is it OK for a black person to use nigger but a white person better always say “the N word’? Why *should* we keep language alive and changing instead of banishing some words? Or are all these things the reverse?

    When a person has demonstrated time and time again in word and deed that he is on the side of justice and human rights, I think it’s a terrible waste of intelligence to jump up and down pointing the finger at him, when so much could be gained by having a conversation.

    How are things going to change? How are people going to be liberated from the silly, pathetic boxes we all draw around ourselves and one another? When we courageously, one subject and one person at a time, reach out with our humanity and TALK with one another. Oh ya….we also gotta listen. Now that can be hard!

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